I spent a good bit of time yesterday talking about bullying with one of my friends yesterday. It’s been on my mind ever since I read Kaella’s and then Michelle’s blog posts last week. Then two days ago my friend (who I have never met in real life!) Adrienne posted on her IG about a nasty comment someone left her. Instagram seems to be a popular platform for people to voice their opinions these days!
I just don’t get it. I really don’t.
Are we all so perfect that we think we have the right to let others know what we have perceived as their imperfections? We definitely aren’t perfect so I guess that means we have somehow decided that it is our right as humans to treat others however we want regardless of the consequences.
Imagine if you heard your kids say to someone, “you’re so fat it’s disgusting!” Or “you make me sick!” You would be horrified even though kids are known to often be too honest! Yet, I see these comments online daily WRITTEN BY GROWN PEOPLE. ADULTS. Sadly, you really don’t have to look hard to find this kind of stuff.
Don’t get me wrong– there are some people online I am not a fan of and it would be easy to issue a stinging remark. There are even people that downright annoy me. But it is absolutely not my right or privilege to tell them especially before trying to build a meaningful relationship, where my words are heartfelt and presented with the empathy of a person who has walked in their shoes if only for a little bit. Usually if we take time to get to know people, we will at the very least be able to understand where they are coming from even if we don’t agree! But just because we may disagree with someone doesn’t mean they are wrong and we are right! Issuing judgemental or just downright hurtful and mean comments based on two sentences someone has written or a picture they have uploaded is just pointing out our lack of compassion, care and love.
When did we get so mean? Isn’t it time to just plain grow up already? If you have time to harass people (especially people you have never even met!) than you definitely need to find a better hobby.
Our words hurt. At their best, our angry words are deflected making our collective hearts more difficult to pierce and at their worst people are ending their lives because of bullying. Anti-Bullying is a big deal in my kid’s school right now but it is not just kids or teens participating. Perhaps some adults need to go back to elementary school!
Let’s decide to build people up instead of tear them down. Besides, didn’t your mom ever teach you–
If you don’t have anything nice to say–don’t say anything at all!
Now why not go, comment on 5 pictures on IG and say something uplifting!
Good grief–make it 10 pictures!